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A Season for Family

I’ve realized from about October to February, is our season of family.  Hunting alone facilitates a great portion of this, and then the holidays manage to cement the rest.  We just don’t have time to spend with many friends, as much as we’d like to.  Family really takes priority.

During the harvest season, I think it is easy to start feeling like you are drowning in the work of a homestead.  I generally feel like I tread water pretty steadily around here, but after a spastic comment on the Apron Stringz blog, when both CJ and Erica of NWEdible reached out to me to make sure that I was alright, I realized my Shiny-Happy exterior was cracking a bit.  While I’m afraid that the comment I left came across way crazier than I intended, the truth is, I have been somewhat overwhelmed.

In April, Rick’s dad, Dave, was diagnosed with ALS  (aka Lou Gehrig’s disease).  I’ve sort of kept this under my hat, since Rick wasn’t keen on talking about it with anyone, even in person.  He got pretty tetchy when I mentioned it to our neighbor (who is getting to be like family) and to our midwives while I was still pregnant with Cora.  So I’ve kept it off the blog all this time.  But I started bracing myself.  I’ve seen diseases before.

I’ve had the unfortunate experience of watching my own father pass away.  He was diagnosed with lung cancer when I was fifteen.  Lung cancer has a 15% survival rate and a lot of people treat you as if you deserve to get it.  But my dad hadn’t smoked in over 20 years before he was diagnosed.  The cause of it was more likely asbestos from being a mechanic or possibly having the polio vaccine tested on him while he served in the Air Force.  Or seeing as he had lost a sister to lung cancer, had a brother that got (and beat!) prostate cancer and a father that died of multiple myeloma at 58, maybe cancer was just in his genes.

But my dad was determined to live.  He had surgery, most of one of his lungs removed, chemo and radiation.  He beat the cancer.  He was cancer free for 8 years before his body, racked by the treatments he received, gave up on him.  I was so grateful that my dad lived to walk me down the aisle, to know Rick.  It was hard to watch my dad, superman in my eyes, go from 6 foot tall to 5′-1″.  To see him lose weight.  For me to never sleep in peace, afraid that his oxygen machine would sound an alarm in the next room if my dad quit breathing, even for a moment.  To see his big, strong mechanic’s hands turn soft and thin.  He died at home in 2004, the day before my 23rd birthday.

ALS makes cancer look like the freakin’ flu.

With cancer, there are treatments, even cures for some.  Hope.  With ALS, there is nothing.  Just waiting, watching, making your loved one feel comfortable as they lose the ability to make their muscles work.  The prognosis for ALS is more than bleak.  Stats vary, but we’ve been told that up to 70% of people diagnosed with it die within 18 months.  It is always fatal.  Less than 10% live longer than five years.

Dave was beginning to show symptoms last October, though we didn’t recognize them.  He’d been feeling weaker for a while longer before that, but just chalked it up to being tired.  He just turned 51 last month.  Because of my experiences with my own dad, I keep expecting to see things plateau with him, but the disease has not slowed at all.  In April, Dave’s words were slurred, by May he was hard to understand.  By June or July, he would only answer yes or no questions out loud.  Now it’s even hard to tell the yeses apart from the nos.  His hands and arms are atrophied pretty severely, so he can’t write.  This past weekend, they gave him a feeding tube.

Through this, my, uh… “greenisim” is wavering.  I’m feeling the urge more an more to take the easy way out.  To throw the proverbial grey water down the drain instead of out the window.  (Here’s where the crazy comment on the Apron Stringz blog comes in).  Part of me doesn’t want to care anymore where my food comes from.  I want to turn the heat up to 69° from 67° and not feel any guilt.  Bag the whole Riot for Austerity.  Throwing in the towel looks appealing.  Part of me is wondering why I should care about organically grown green beans when my father-in-law is struggling to swallow.  I’m wondering if  we can sustain our sustainable life style?  And is it worth it?

The truth is, I know in my heart that it is worth it.  But I need to find a way to be ok with what I can do right now.  Maybe the Riot is beyond my reach at this point in our family’s journey.  Maybe CJ’s Quiet Riot, or even just tracking our energy use is good enough for right now.  Maybe I need to be ok with the things we are doing and hold the space while our family gets ready to walk through the coming grief.

I’ve known somewhat more loss than anyone in Rick’s family (all his grandparents are still living), and I know my strengths can be quite helpful in hard times like these.  The loss of Dave is going to be a devastating blow.  And I’m grateful to have this time with family right now.

So here I am, holding the space.  And turning up my thermostat to 68°.

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Christmas Tree Cutting 2011

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Sugar Skulls

Last week my family got together to decorate sugar skulls, or calaveras, for the Mexican holiday, Dia de los Muertos, or Day of the Dead.  Now, my family is not Mexican, but being in the West, we see and hear a lot about this holiday.  My sister even has her house decorated in calaveras and skeletons that she has collected from her various trips to New Mexico.

Dia de los Muertos is a two day celebration on November 1-2 to remember the people in your life that have died.  It is not related to Halloween at all, except like Halloween, it was a traditional holiday that, at some point in history, the catholic church moved the dates of the holiday to coincide with All Saints Day and All Souls Day.  Despite that, Day of the Dead still remains rooted in its original Oaxaca-indian traditions, and is a pretty unique celebration.

Day of the Dead is a  festive time to remember lost family members.  Families get together to celebrate their loved ones lives by eating the favorite foods of the family members that have died.  In Mexico, it’s tradition to build an oferenda or altar, for your deceased family member and fill it with pan de muertos (the bread of the dead), which is a sweet bread, tequila, marigold flowers and sugar skulls.

The skulls are meant to represent the individuals that have died, as well as living family members.  The skulls are completely edible, being made of sugar and royal icing, but all but the smallest skulls are generally not eaten.  They also make smaller chocolate skulls to eat.  Some people believe that by eating the skulls, you are eating, and therefore thwarting, your own death.  The sugar skulls are meant to last for years (and can, if well taken care of).

Because my sister loves these traditions and the folk art surrounding this holiday, last year I ordered special sugar skull molds and we made skulls to decorate.  But, we also really love Halloween and Henry’s birthday is on November 1st, so we didn’t manage to get time to decorate our skulls last year.  So I packed them away until last week when we could all get together and decorate them.

We had such a fun time decorating our skulls.  Hopefully no one is offended that we took so much joy in making the skulls, although they weren’t made to represent anyone specific.  We aren’t celebrating the holiday properly at all.  Mostly we just were having fun with the skulls themselves, although I do plan to invite my sister to go up to where we spread our dad’s ashes for a lunch and some peanut butter cookies (his favorite).  But mainly it was a fun family craft time for us.

I made my sister some sugar skull cocktail napkins and got us matching skeleton aprons.  And that led me to finally cross off one of my 101 in 1001 goals – opening an Etsy shop.  I don’t know how successful my shop will be.  It’s pretty simple stuff that I’ve made – I feel like most anyone could make them.  But I figured it was worth a try, and I enjoy the projects I’ve listed so far.  Check it out if you are so inclined.  There is a set of sugar skull cocktail napkins listed in case you want a set of your own, as well as one of the skulls I made.  ;)

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Winding Down for the Season

We’re playing catch up here as the harvest season comes to a close.  This is my favorite time of year, but it is one that works us the hardest.  As the weather cools off we find ourselves wanting to move inside.  We want to settle down with a cuppa and a warm blanket or cozy up to a nice bowl of hot soup.  Unfortunately, all that coziness will have to wait just a few more weeks.  Winter is the true sleepy season.  Fall is the season of work.

We have most of the harvest put away finally.  Sunflowers and corn are hanging to dry, onions and potatoes are stored, canning is finished, summer produce is put up in its various forms.  We have garlic to plant this week.  I am actually doing a little garden redesign as we are pulling plants when the freezes hit and kills them off one by one.  The tomatoes are still, unbelievably, hanging on.

I am hoping to get some of our kohlrabi to over-winter so I can get seed from it next fall.  The plants are from seed from Slovakia that was smuggled through the mail to my in-laws.  The variety is very large – 8 pounds or more without any woodiness.  Our plants are bulbing up nicely, and they might just be one of the few big successes this season, but the seed is hard to come by.

An Independence Days update is in order, I think.  I last did one in August.

Plant something – Planted a few hardy mums.  Garlic will hit the dirt this week – nothing else is on the docket though.

Harvest something – eggs, tomatoes, peppers, kale, chard, kohlrabi, over 60 gallons (maybe even 80) of compost.

Preserve something – tomatoes and corn frozen, a couple of ducks in the freezer (thanks to Rick!!), the above mentioned canning, drying, dehydrating and such.

Waste Not – compost and recycling, scraps to chickens, etc.  Reused old t-shirts for a Halloween costume.  Working on other sewing projects from the scrap box – including some napkins and even two quilts!  Been mending things, not throwing them out.

Want Not – My friend Annie gave us some cloth diapers, and I used an old flannel baby blanket to make some extra wipes.  Got some great hand-me-downs from some friends for the baby girl.

Build Community Food Systems – Participated in both the Denver Botanic Gardens and the Denver Urban Homesteading chicken coop tours.  Baby sat for some friends in exchange for a couple of pullets (we got the great end of that deal)!

Eat the Food – yes.  :)

Although my summer garden was a huge flop this year, I am happy that I put down some bok choy seeds and some late season peas this summer.  I might get one more harvest before we put the garden to bed completely.  I actually planted some other things too, but the second round of kale, spinach and beets never came up and I didn’t get any replacements in the ground in time.  I feared for the bok choy after the chicken coop tour – it got somewhat trampled since a few people didn’t seem to realize they were standing in my garden on my baby brassicas.  But it has survived, and even if it doesn’t get huge, I might get some baby heads out of it yet.

Still, I find myself drawn indoors.  Completing sewing projects (mostly mending) that I’ve put off for months.  Starting other projects.  Getting my craft on.  A few moments of inspiration have led to some things getting done in the handiwork department.  Halloween is coming and costumes need making.

We had a family dinner last week.  I’ve been spending more time with my sister lately and I am enjoying this time with her.  We decorated sugar skulls for the Mexican Day of the Dead.  The holiday begins on November 1st, which is Henry’s birthday, and we are big Halloween fans around here, so we did our Dia de los Muertos early this year.  (More on this later, I promise).

Life these days is transitioning from the mad rush of summer to the slower pace of fall.  Rick’s big-game hunting will mark the last of the harvest here, and that is coming in the next few weeks.  In the mean time, we are quieting down.  The canning pot is back in it’s spot in the basement.  Henry is focusing more on indoor play and learning.  It’s funny how we naturally move in these rhythms.  From outside in the sun and mud to inside quiet games at the table.

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Handmade Halloween – No Sew Pterodactyl Tutorial

Last year I posted two Halloween costume tutorials and they were a big hit.  In fact, they’ve been the biggest hits on this blog for the last month or so.  But last year, the costumes were easy.  Emmett was a garden gnome, and Henry was a bat.  This year, Henry upped the ante – he wants to be a pterodactyl.

A pterodactyl.  Seriously.  How am I supposed to make that?!  Henry certainly keeps me on my toes.  Here’s what we came up with.

You’ll need:

  • a large piece of poster board
  • approx. one yard of fleece fabric (or an amount that will fit your kid’s arm-span)
  • hot glue gun and glue
  • scissors and hole-punch
  • duct tape, preferably in a fun color
  • five 9″x12″ pieces of felt in a variety of colors.  I used 2 red pieces, 2 orange pieces and 1 yellow piece.  These are not pictured.
  • a helper who wants to be a pterodactyl

Originally I was going to use spray paint to decorate the costume, but after trying it on some scraps, I decided to go with felt instead.  Just disregard that can of paint there.  ;)

So, the Ptutorial:

Roll the poster board into a cone shape, centering the bottom point over your kiddos eyes and making sure he can still see.  Tape the cone so that it will be the correct size to fit his head.  This will be sort of a hat.  A cone-hat.  It’s ok if there is a little wiggle room, since you will be making ties that will be on the inside of the cone-hat.

   

Punch two holes in the cone-hat near your kid’s ears, using duct tape to reinforce them (the holes, not the ears).  Keep in mind that the back of the cone-hat is heavy, so the holes will need to be in a place that will keep it balanced on his head.  Also keep in mind that he has hair under the cone-hat where you are punching the holes – unless you want to give him a weird hole-punch hair cut.  Yep, that’s the way we roll.

Cut the salvage edge off your fleece.  Cut this strip in half.  Cut one half in half again, and set the other half aside.

Thread the two pieces of the first half through the holes in the cone-hat.  Knot them on the outside.  Use a piece of duct tape to secure the knots to the side of the hat, so they will be as flat as possible, but won’t slip through the holes.

  

Wrap the tip of the cone-hat in duct tape.  Extend the tape past the end of the cone and give it a bit of a curve.

Cut your fleece in half along the fold so that you have two relatively square pieces.  Mine were each a yard long.  Use one piece to wrap your cone-hat.  I let a bit hang over the edge in the back of the hat, so none of the poster board would show.  Use the hot glue gun to secure the fleece to the poster board, trimming off any excess fleece as needed, and making sure your curved duct tape tip pokes through the top.

  

Where the fleece overlaps the point on the front of the hat, fold it over and glue it to the underside of the poster board with the glue gun.

Your hat should now look like this:

Set your hat aside and have your kiddo lay down on the second piece of fleece. I took this picture and then decided to turn the fleece the other way, 90 degrees.  So the wings will be wider, rather than longer.  Make sure your kid is at the very top of the fleece, and then mark where his armpits are and cut two slits in the fleece, about two inches long.  Fleece is very stretchy, so don’t cut these too big, or too close to the edge.

  

About two inches in from the edges (where his hands would be) cut two more slits about an inch to an inch and a half apart for each hand.  Again, not too big, they will stretch.

Cut the bottom of the fleece into a wing shape.  Folding it in half makes it symmetrical.

   

Have him put his arms through the armpit holes like he was putting on a jacket, then his hands through the hand holes so that his wrists are through and he can grip the fleece in each hand.  Now, measure where his waist is and cut two small slits about two inches apart in the center of the wings.  Thread the second half of the salvaged edge strip through these holes so that the long ends can tie around your kid’s waist.

The wings should now look like this (Henry is holding them up – not wearing them yet):

Now, using the felt, make dinosaur-like designs to decorate your wings and hat.  This is easy, since no one knows what dinosaurs really looked like!  We did these oval, spot thingies for the back/outside of the wings.

  

And wavy, red and orange stripes for the front/inside of the wings and for the hat.  Attach all your felt decorations with hot glue.

Now, dress your kid in some dinosaur-hue clothing appropriate for the weather where you trick-or-treat.  We used brown pants that we already had, and a greenish shirt.  If I can track one down before the 31st, I might have him wear a yellow shirt instead, because every knows pterodactyls wear yellow shirts

Have your kiddo thread his arms through the wings, tie his belt (under his shirt), and tie on his hat.  Notice that I covered the back of the belt with a dino-spot.

Voilà – pterodactyl!

Ka-kaw, ka-kaw!

Happy Halloween!

Oh, and if you are like me, you should just buy double the fleece you need, because you are going to make the first wings too small.  But this is actually a good thing, since all pterodactyls live in family groups…

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Peach Picking 2011

I finally got some of our peach pictures sorted through.  We had such a fun time picking this year.

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We’re quite lucky the Bracken’s don’t weigh us before and after leaving the orchard… I think Emmett ate his weight in peaches!

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What We’ve Been Up To…

Sorry for the lack of posts lately.  We’ve been up to a lot.  We spent some time pulling weeds, trimming hedges, cleaning up the flower beds and mowing this weekend too, but I didn’t get a picture.  This is very sad, because it was the first time Rick used the new push mower!   Other garden news – the sunflowers and okra I planted are up and should make a nice screen soon.  But between all the projects, I’ve been pretty exhausted and have had weird hip-nerve-fire-stabbing pain going on my right side.  Because of that, I’ve been spending the boys’ nap time (my usual blog writing time) napping myself.  38 weeks pregnant and counting.  Here are some pictures of what we’ve been up to over the last couple weeks.  As always, click to view larger.

The tree stump came out:

 

The garden is growing:

 

The rest of the basement got “finished”:

The nursery got a few more touches:

 

 

Baby’s ETA is any time now.  I was 12 days early with Emmett, and although I know I can’t count on a repeat of that goodness, I can still hope.  You can bet there will be pictures.  ;)

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Beginning Homeschool Adventures

Last week, I was inspired to share with you about us beginning our latest adventure – homeschooling.  As I tried to discuss fears and hopes, it sort of turned into a sort of postpartum/post-Josie confessional.  Not exactly what I was going for, but much needed.  Sometimes the muse knows better than we do what is relevant to the time. This week, you get to hear all that I’m excited about instead!

My friend Annie, the one who home schools her four kiddos, has been doing a Homeschooling FAQ series on her blog, and I am loving it!  Stuff like doing math every day and what to do with your toddler while you are teaching your older kids.  Another fellow blogger/inspiration has been CitySister from the City Sister Country Sister blog, who started homeschooling last fall and has been generous with information on their journey as well.

One big catalyst for our decision to commit to kindergarten for Henry was the realization that I wouldn’t have to be giving lessons eight hours a day to Henry.  I got this concept in my head of course, but I just hadn’t fully wrapped my mind around the fact that I could teach him in small increments throughout the day, when it worked. And then I realized, I’ve been homeschooling for a long time now.  Like since he was born. GASP!  I am being completely genuine here, this was a huge revelation to me, and now I feel like it’s funny that I never realized it.

Annie’s FAQ have reinforced this for me, and I am feeling pretty excited and confident about starting “the school year” this fall.  Although I’ve already been changing some things up this spring and getting into a routine that’s been working pretty well so far.

Since Henry is four and a half, we’ve “started” slow.  We made a chore chart with things like brushing teeth, picking up his toys and clearing away the dinner dishes.  These are things he was already doing, but we are wanting to move a bit from having to remind him about them to him doing them on his own – taking responsibility for them and getting into more of a routine, so we can have space for learning.  It’s tough to think (at least it is for me) when I know the table is a mess or that I’ve got to clean it before we can do anything on it.

He’s a smart kiddo, and already knows his alphabet and can count pretty high.  We play math games and word games all the time.  It was only when I committed in my mind to homeschooling that I realized we were already doing it.  For example, Henry asks, what rhymes with ‘dog’ and then proceeds to tell me all the things he can think of that rhyme.  Or we take turns.  When one of us is stumped, we pick a new word and then think of everything that rhymes with it too.  We can play this game for a long time – usually in the car.  Or what starts with L – and then he lists everything that starts with L.

For math, it’s stuff like how many forks do we need to set the table?  How many would we need if Granny and Mano came over for dinner?  What if Mano had to work and didn’t come?  How many plates do we need?  What if everyone had two plates, then how many?  He can answer all these questions, without counting out loud.

He’s been practicing writing since he was three.  We made lots of thank you notes together.  On a separate paper, I would write “Dear Grandma, thank you. Love Henry” and he would look at the paper and copy it onto his drawing that he was going to mail to Grandma.  Now, instead of me writing and him copying, he asks, “How do you spell Mr. Mitchell.”  And then we talk about the sounds as I tell him the letters.  He writes the letters himself at the table while I’m folding laundry on the couch.  As you can see, we started a long time ago, before we knew what we were doing.  :)

So a big change for us will be adding a bit of discipline to this – as in moving from just doing it when it pops into our heads to doing a little bit everyday.  Sort of like the chore chart.  Practice using our math muscles everyday.

The latest thing that I’m really excited about though is reading together.  A few weeks ago, Henry and I started a new routine.  After lunch, I put Emmett down for his nap, and Henry and I read books together on the couch until Emmett is asleep.  Then I can have Henry lay down too, and they both nap!

Now I’ve always been excited about when I could read out loud to my kids.  Not picture books, but actual novels.  My mom always read to me, even through high school, and I loved it and have always looked forward to it.  I tried about a year ago to read Stuart Little to Henry but his attention span was just too short, and he never remembered what we read the day before.  But about three weeks ago, we were reading a picture book called The Biggest Bear, in which a boy named Johnny feeds an adopted bear maple sugar.  Henry has a bit of a sweet tooth and proceeded to ask me lots of questions about maple sugar.  Where does it come from?  How do they make it?  And I remembered that in Little House in the Big Woods, the Ingalls family makes maple sugar, and the book explains the whole process.

So I offered to read a long book to Henry.  I explained that the book didn’t have pictures and that he’d have to imagine the pictures and that it would take us many days to finish reading the book together.  He said he would like to.  And he has liked it!!  Everyday for a week, after tucking Emmett in, I would offer to read him pictures books or “the Laura book,” and he’d chose the Laura book.  He remembered what we’ve read and asks questions (what is an attic?) and was totally into it.  When we finished, i wondered how much he really absorbed, until he took the book and flipped every page looking at the few illustrations telling me exactly what happened in that part of the story (“…and this is when the wild cat chased Grandpa on the horse and he had to run very fast and then got his gun and shot the wildcat because it jumped on the horse’s back…”  I’m over the moon!

So, at this point, this is all we’ve done towards homeschooling.  But it’s a start and I’m really excited about doing more.  We’re still very much in an informal stage, but we are working towards a routine and eventually we’ll incorporate some curriculum (especially for things like math).  Does your family home school?  How did you get started?  Do you use a curriculum?

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