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Ahem…

Posted on June 14, 2013 by Anisa

Well hi there.  I left you hanging, didn’t I.  What happened to me?

It can best be summed up by two words: real life.

Desert Museum

I had a whole series of posts written in my mind and a few started in my draft folder.  I had planned to give weekly challenges for the social media fast.  I was going to challenge you and myself to pick up the phone and call a friend, to write a letter and mail it to someone, and finally, to be a host.  And I did those things.  I wrote several letters, and I loved it.  I called people to reconnect with them.  What I didn’t do was “like” their status.

Although I dropped the ball here on the blog, I completed my social media fast.  June 1 came and went without me glancing at Facebook.  After that first week, it wasn’t hard anymore.  In fact, I wasn’t even really drawn to the computer at all (hence the absence here).

Sometime earlier this week, I got on Facebook and deleted my personal account (the blog page is still up and growing – Rick is managing it for me).  Not the temporary delete, where if you sign in again all your friends and pictures are still there.  No, I deleted pictures and then permanently deleted the account.  And it felt good.  I breathed a sigh of relief.

Making javelinas

I got a lot done last month.  My kids and I studied the Sonoran Desert and then at the end of the month, we took a trip there and stayed with friends in Tucson.  They boys LOVED it.  They loved the desert, but they loved the projects we did together more.  They loved painting jack rabbits and reading books and identifying nocturnal and diurnal.  They loved my undivided attention.

I also met more people.  I made a friend here and we’ve gotten together a couple of times with plans to meet again.  My house is (marginally) cleaner.  But the biggest change has been my mood.  I’m happier.   And my kids are happier too.

I have to admit though, more than the media fast has kept me from the blog this last few weeks.  I’ve struggled to find the words here lately.  By lately, I mean the last few months.

Part of me feels like this space has grown less personal.  Also, the modern homestead movement is really taking off (yay) but is now filled with many, many voices, and I don’t know that I have a lot more to say right now.

Henry Map

These thoughts had been rattling around up there in my mind for a while, but I’ve pushed them aside.  And then came my challenge, and around the second week, I got Calamity Jane’s blogging farewell in my inbox.  Her post is a great summary of how I have felt about this blog.

We are in a different place than we were before, literally.  I am a little weary of talking “at” readers and the interwebs.  I’m tired of stopping every project for pictures.  I’m tired of thinking of new things to share.  I just want to live for a bit.

Since the beginning of June, Rick has given me a hard time about just up and abandoning the blog here, but  really didn’t know what to write.  I’m not going to stop blogging completely, but I do know that when I write, it is going to have to be something I want to write.  It will probably be more personal, and if will definitely be less consistent.

giant saguaro

So there it is…. no promises for future posts.  When they come, I hope you will read, if they are interesting to you.  I know that I will always write something, some where.  In the mean time, thanks for following, and supporting.  And if you are growing things, keep growing.

Now I’m off to study sea turtles with my kiddos.

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Real Community Challenge: Week 1

Posted on May 6, 2013 by Anisa

We’re six days into the Real Community challenge.  How are you doing?  As a quick recap, the Real Community Challenge rules are:

  • Limit the social media sites that suck away time and energy.
  • Practice new, more constructive habits.
  • Do not allow media, TV or phones at the table.
  • Take a new step towards real community each week.

These first few days have been interesting.  I have done pretty well with what I set out to do.  I ate meals at the table with the kids, and we went for walks for all but three of the mornings.  One day was too rainy to go walking and the next day was too muddy.  This morning we didn’t walk because the maid came.  For some reason she usually comes on Mondays.  (We have no maid.  I am the maid.  But I was motivated to clean, so I didn’t want to interrupt the flow).

I’ve been able to somehow (miraculously!) get more done, now that I’m not checking Facebook.  I caught up on my emails.  I wrote a letter to a friend and mailed it.  I got more things unpacked.  I had dinner ready most of the nights by the time Rick was home.  I did an art project with the kids.

However, it has been tough for me.  I was really tempted to cheat and look at Facebook (through Rick’s account!) last night.  But I stayed strong and didn’t do it.  Rick is out of town, and the kids were in bed.  The house was quiet, I was caught up on emails, with nothing to do.

Instead, I decided to talk to a friend.  She texted me and then I asked her to call if she had time.  It was just enough distraction that the urge soon passed.

Over all, I’m enjoying it so far.  I am enjoying not wasting so much time and getting more done.  But I do feel still a bit disconnected.  SO here comes my next step to build real community. 

This week I will meet someone new.  I encourage you to do this too. 

Saturday I took the kids to the playground across the street from our house.  The playground is going to be renovated soon, and I accidentally showed up when a meeting about it was supposed to take place.  This might come as a surprise, but I’m not an overly social person.  I tend to avoid large crowds of people and it is my nature to go to the park when there is no one else there.

But I was there and suddenly lots of people were there.  I decided to pipe up and say that I hoped there would be benches in the shade for parents to watch their kids play.  As you can imagine, there were other moms there too.  I met two of them.  Coincidentally, one of the women was a friend of a reader of this blog who has just moved from Texas to Colorado… small world huh?

Meeting people is hard for me.  I tend to just spill my guts and show all my crazy within the first ten minutes of meeting someone.  I mean, I told both of these women that I was a blogger, that I moved from Colorado, I was a weird hippie and that I lived without a fridge for a year and a half.  Yeah.  They were both kind though, and they both emailed me within the day.  And I plan (hope) to get together with them.

So yay! I met someone new!  Two someones! But it was on Saturday, not this week.  Because I’m not asking you to do anything I’m not going to do, I’m still going to make sure I meet someone else this week too.

Why is meeting someone new important to real community?  Well, for me, the reasons are obvious, since I’m new in town.  But even if you have lived in your city your whole life, it’s important.  Others may have resources you never knew about.  For example, both of the women I met at the park invited me to be a part of various communities in the area (a real food yahoo group that does group buys, a home school group, a mom’s group, and resources for buying raw milk and fresh eggs).  Jackpot!

When I lived in Colorado, I was constantly finding new resources through new friends, even though I had lived there my whole life.  We need people to have community, and the more of them you know in real life, the stronger that community will be.

So that is the mini-challenge within the Real Community Challenge.  Meet someone new.

My goal now looks like this:

I will be blocking Facebook and limiting Pinterest.  Instead of checking them I will go for a walk in the mornings.  Media, TV and phones are not allowed at the table and will be shut off or silenced during meals.  I will continue eating meals at the table with my family. And this week, I will meet someone new.

A side note here… many people have expressed to me in private that they love the idea of this challenge and that they will be joining in one form or another.  Some of them don’t want to announce it.  That’s ok.  It’s also ok if you don’t want to get off of Facebook (or what have you) completely, but just want to manage the amount of time you spend on it better.  The point of this challenge is not to completely cut yourself off from social media (unless that’s what you want), but rather focus on REAL community, face-to-face relationships.  So go with what works for you. 

Tell me friends, how were the first few days?  And if you haven’t joined in yet, are you considering it?

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Real Community Challenge

Posted on April 29, 2013 by Anisa

Last week I shared with you my recent angst over social media, and the idea of taking a break from it for the month of May.  Despite all the reasons I shared, taking a break from Facebook and other social media outlets is going to be a tough challenge for me.

Before I get too far into this, I want to tell you that I realize the irony of presenting this idea on my blog, since blogging is a form of social media.  But for me, the blog is neither a huge time sink, an addiction, or a source of fear or anxiety.  I can’t say the same for Facebook.

Today, I’m going to lay out the rules of the challenge.  Throughout the month I plan to share mini-challenges to help us all stay on track, as well as address the positives of social media, and how we can keep the good things without getting sucked into the negatives of social media. This is a work-in-progress for me, so I will probably be making the rules up as I go.

Also, it’s worth mentioning here that my personal social media addiction is with Facebook.  Yours might be too, or maybe it is Twitter, Reddit, You Tube, a certain news website, your RSS feed/Reader or certain blogs.  For the sake of simplicity, I’m going to say FB.  Just apply what I’m saying to the social media outlet of your choice.  Also, please note that the blog automatically posts to Facebook (if you are not participating in the challenge, I don’t want  you to think I’m cheating. ;) ).

I mentioned last week that I thought social media was a lazy community replacement.  So I’ve decided to call  this the Real Community Challenge.

Real Community Challenge 2013

First of all, we need to break the habit.  We need to stop visiting the websites that cause us to waste time or distract us from real life.  Even if it’s this one.  This can be tough.

For me I have a habit of sitting down with my morning coffee, checking my email and then checking FB.  I can waste a whole morning clicking through to different stories.  I plan to install some blocking software on my browser that will keep me from clicking through to FB for the entire month of May.  Since I use Firefox, I will be using LeechBlock.

Here is a really useful link that talks about blocking sites for different browsers, as well as more permanent ways of blocking sites.  Also, if you don’t know which sites are wasting the majority of your time, you can use a tracker (also linked in the page above) to discover what they are.

I’m also going to use LeechBlock to block Pinterest at certain times of the day.  Pinterest is an interesting form of social media.  I’m including it here because I tend to spend a lot of time on it, however I feel differently about Pinterest than other forms of social media.  I will talk more about this later this month.

Next, we’re going to make new habits.

Instead of checking my FB page first thing in the morning while my kids are eating breakfast, I am going to sit at the table with them to eat.  And then clean up breakfast together, get the kids dressed and go for a walk.  I want this to be the new habit.  I’m going to replace my old habit with my new habit.  I don’t care how long or short the walk is.  I need to get outside and see the sun and I am resolving to do this instead of waste time on the computer.

The first rule of the challenge is no phones or media devices at the table and no TV during meal times.

No checking email during dinner, no texting, and if your phone rings during a meal, let it go to voice mail.  You can call them back after dinner is over.  Shut off the TV while you eat.  Silence your phone.

This is my way of telling my family and others that I’m with, they are more important to me than whatever is happening online or in the outside world.  There is no reason to have your phone at the table, a date or dinner party unless you are a doctor or midwife on call, a first responder whose job requires your availability or something similar.  Stress at the office or a micro-managing boss doesn’t count.  This is a good boundary for everyone.

Finally, we are going to take steps to build real community.

Each week I’m going to add a new challenge to build community.  The first place I want to build real community is in my home at meal times.

Every night our family has dinner together, at the table.  We sit down together, eat, and then clear the table together.  If your family doesn’t do this, I urge you to start and to make it a habit.  Since we already do dinner, my first steps are going to be to have every meal together as a family.  At the table.

Instead of making the kids lunch and then doing my own thing while they eat, I’m going to sit down to eat with them, for breakfast, lunch and dinner. If you are not home all day with your kids, I encourage you to eat your meals at a table, not in your car, at a desk or on the couch, and to eat them with someone else.

If you are in an office, eat at a table in the lunch room instead of your desk.  Perhaps a coworker will join you (hey, look, community!).  If you go to a restaurant, go inside and sit down to eat, and try not to go alone.  If you are on the couch, chances are you are watching TV, disengaged from others around you and very likely to overeat.  I find that if I am sitting at a table, especially with someone else, I am much less apt to try to check my FB and more likely to talk to them.

This first meal-time step is simply a suggestion.  If you already eat all your meals at a table with other people, please feel free to make your first step something else.

So that’s the start of it, pretty simple I think.  Starting Wednesday, for the month of May:

  • I’m blocking the social media sites that suck away my time and energy.
  • I’m going to practice a new, more constructive habit.
  • I will not allow media, TV or phones at the table.
  • Each week I will take a new step towards real community.

So, will you join me?

If you are up for this challenge, please post what site(s) you will be blocking, what your new habit will be, your promise not to allow phones or media at the table, and what your first step towards real community will be.

I will be blocking Facebook and Pinterest.  Instead of checking them I will go for a walk in the mornings.  Media, TV and phones are not allowed at the table and will be shut off or silenced during meals.  This week I will start eating all meals at the table with my family.

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Tips for Using Your Push Mower

Posted on April 24, 2013 by Anisa

I realize that in some parts of the country, there is still snow on the ground.  Down here in central Texas, though, I just finished mowing the lawn for the second time.  Whew!  I’m grateful that our backyard here is modest, since even this “mild” spring weather is hot to me.

Here are some tips in case you are new to using a push-reel mower and finding it difficult.

Push mower

1. Clean the yard first.  Our power mower could chop up sticks, but twigs will get caught in the reel of the push mower, bringing you to a stop and you’ll have to reverse the blades to get it out before you continue mowing.  Frequent starts and stops require a lot more energy than maintaining momentum.  A few minutes spent looking for sticks and rocks and small kids’ toys, anything that might get caught in the mower’s blades, and removing them from the grass before you get started is time well spent.

2.  Set your blades higher.  Longer grass uses less water, and higher blades will promote that, taking just a little off the top.  If you cut the grass shorter, it might need more passes of the mower, which can double (or more) the time you spend mowing.

3.  Mow more often.  While longer grass is good for water conservation, let it get too long and you’ll have trouble getting the push mower through it at all.  This is especially true of thick lawns or lawns with hills.  Our new lawn has a bit of a rise in one area and that grass is harder to mow.  If we were to “let it go” it would be very difficult to cut with the push mower.

4.  Use a trimmer for the edges.  I’ve had a  hard time getting the push mower to do a good job cutting the grass at the edges of the lawn where it meets with the fence or the patio.  Instead of struggling over those areas over and over, I just mow as close as I can and then clean up the edges with the trimmer.

5.  Mow in sections.  Our front yard here is about the same size as it was in Colorado, but the grass here is thick and harder to get the mower through.  It makes the job tough for me in the heat (I know!  Wimpy Colorado girl in Texas!).  Instead of sweating my way through the whole job at once, I break it into two or three more manageable chunks.  The mower is lightweight so it’s no big deal to walk it back to the backyard while I take a break, get a drink or water my garlic.  Then after I’m refreshed, I take on the next section of lawn.  I can still get the job done, both front and back yards, in under an hour including the breaks.

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Thrifty Thursday: Holiday Gifts Throughout the Year

Posted on April 18, 2013 by Anisa

Over the last few years, Rick and I have gotten pretty good at managing our monthly budget.  The one place where we have a huge bump, however, is always at the end of the year.  The holidays.

Ugh.  Holiday shopping is a large hole in our budget.  Every year we say we’re going to save, going to put a little money away every month so we have a cushion for December to buy gifts (or supplies to make gifts) for our family and friends.  But we don’t.  And then we end up relying on Rick’s bonus money or selling items on Etsy (I did pretty good last year), or whatever to eek out just enough for Christmas.  And we always end up scrimping on the gifts we give each other.

This year, I’m trying something different.  Buying and making gifts as I go.  I know it’s not a new concept, but I have never been able to make it work.  I always forget what I bought or where I put it, or I give the person the gift I bought early because I just can’t wait.

This year, I have a plan.  It’s a list.  That I keep with me. 

Gift Log

First, I made a list with three columns:  Who, What, and Where.  Make this list somewhere when you won’t lose it.  Mine is in my planner on a Contacts page in the back.  Put it in your phone, whatever… just somewhere where you can find it and access it quickly.  Not on your home computer.  I’ve tried that, and I forgot to keep it up to date.

The Who column is for all of all the people you’d like to give gifts to.  Count them up.  For me, it is 19 people if I count individuals, or 14 if we do some couple/family gifts.  Looking at how many months before the holidays, and since I started this in January, I decided that if I buy or make two gifts per month, I’d have all of my gifts made or purchased no later than September.  And I can totally afford two gifts per month.  If I were starting now, I would still be able to make it by December, possibly November.

WHERE

Ok, so two gifts a month.  Now here’s where the list is super important.  I need to remember WHAT I bought (and for whom), and WHERE I put it, so that in December, I can find the gift and give it to the person I bought it for.  That’s why you must have the list with you.

And then write down what the gift is and where you put it.

For example, I found this funny little mini-pinball game for my grandpa (I can share this gift because my grandpa doesn’t read my blog).  So next to my Grandpa’s name, I wrote Pinball Game in the What column, and then Pink Shoe Box in the Closet in the Where column.  At the old house we kept that box under the bed.  Since I moved the box, I made sure to update my list.  So I can find it later.

Box in closet

Simple, right?  I’ve stuck with it, and I really think it’s going to work this year.  And, it will leave me and Rick some extra money come the end of the year for each other, the kids, and the people we draw names for at Thanksgiving.

Do you budget or plan for the holidays?  What do you do that works?

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Thrifty Thursday: DIY Swiffer Cloths

Posted on January 24, 2013 by Anisa

We have hard flooring throughout our house here.  Tile in the kitchen and bath and wood floors everywhere else.  There is a great tool for keeping those floors clean, most of you know it; the Swiffer.  But those Swiffer cloths get expensive.

My solution: mirco-fiber towels.  I have a couple of micro-fiber towels that will fit perfectly onto the head of my Swiffer.

And when I need to spot clean something with a mop?  I just get the cloth wet, wring it out and poof! – a Swiffer wet mop.

Micro Fiber Cloth

Go forth and attack your dust bunnies!

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Thrifty Thursday: Patching Kids Jeans

Posted on January 10, 2013 by Anisa

I used to buy all of Henry’s jeans used and then I passed them on to Emmett.  But there comes an age when you can no longer find any used jeans in your son’s size.  It starts around 4T and there is a virtual jean desert until… well, H wears a 6 slim and I still can’t find them.  Because boys this age are HARD on jeans.

I have not been able to pass jeans down either.  By the time one boy is done with them, there is only enough jean left for shorts, if I’m lucky.  Besides that, Emmett is determined to keep growing and seems to be catching up to his older brother.  They are only one size apart now.  Some things fit both of them.

All of this is to tell you that patching jeans has become an important skill in this house.

Here is a quick tutorial of how I keep my boys’ knees covered through the winter.  This method give the jeans that popular “destroyed” look, except they are hole-free and will hold up for a few more months.

Here we have a pair on holey jeans…

Holey Jeans

I have yet to buy a patch, instead I have cut “patches” from the lower legs and backs of jeans that were too holey to be repaired.  I use pinking shears to cut a piece of denim large enough to cover the hole.  If you don’t have any jeans to cut from, you can buy jean patches at a fabric store.

Pin your patch to the inside of the jeans, with the pins on the outside so you can pull them out as you sew.

Pin patch to inside

My sewing machine has this crazy stitch.  All machines are different, but select the craziest stitch you have.

Select crazy stitch

Next I remove the accessories box that allows my machine to have a free arm…

Free the arm

And then I slide the leg of the jeans over the arm.  This is so that I can stitch the patch on without sewing through the whole leg, closing it on accident.

Slide leg over

Now start sewing.  You are going to stitch all over the hole and the patch.  Back-stitch is your friend, because with the jeans over the arm like this you can’t turn them at all.

Crazy stitch all over the hole

I found it helpful to stick my left hand in the top of the jeans and use my right hand to operate the back-stitch lever.  Now sew, sew, sew.  Cover the entire hole and all around it.

Back stich a lot

Almost done.  Sew like crazy.

view from inside

After the patch is covered with crazy stitches, slide the jeans off the machine arm, turn inside out and trim any excess patch away.

All done!  A little extra life with a rough and tough patch for your kids’ jeans!

All done

Depending on the thread you use, you can really make the patch stand out with contrasting thread, or disappear if you can get a good color match.  I have about four different blues.  I try to get close, but thankfully, my boys are at an age where they really don’t care either way.

Do you patch kids’ clothes?  What tips do you have?

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Plugging In

Posted on January 7, 2013 by Anisa

During a long talk with Rick at the beginning of November, during which I was feeling quite overwhelmed with projects and homeschooling and life in general, I decided to go ahead and normalize our kitchen again.  We plugged the fridge back in.

We unplugged the fridge in May of 2011. It was supposed to be a month-long experiment.  We left it unplugged for a year and a half.  So, I guess in that way, it was a total success.  We had a great system down, and we pretty much forgot what life with a refrigerator was like.

I liked it, being weird and different and extreme.  But also, Rick and I were getting to the point where we craved a little normalcy and simplicity in our lives in general.  The fridge was a sort of symbol for me of this crazy, hippie extreme life that I wanted to have.  And, Rick, being super supportive, has come along for the ride, and for the most part, we have that life.

We grow our food or buy from local farms, we have chickens and bees.  I never buy cereal or use paper plates or paper towels.  I’ve made our own laundry soap and dishwasher detergent.  We’ve cloth diapered (3 kids), etc.  You get the point.

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But sometimes being weird can wear on you.  It was wearing on us both (not the fridge, but you know… everything).

One of my good friends talks about how tough it can be to live in two worlds.  You know the two… one in which all your friends only buy gluten-free, sustainably harvested, BPA-free, GMO-free, soy-free, local, handmade, hand loomed, home-grown, vegetarian fed, and free range.  And the other world: the on sale, easy clean-up, big box, double coupon, plastic, convenient, drive-thru, battery operated, disposable one.

I mean, take a kid’s birthday party.  Imagine hosting 25 people but using nothing disposable.  No paper plates or plastic forks or crêpe paper streamers.  Or if you do use plastic cups you feel guilty, even for the biodegradable ones.  The guilt.

So I decided to let go.  Not of everything.  Sometimes I use a paper towel or 100% recycled paper plate.  The fridge was something simple that could go back to normal, not be so weird.

You wouldn’t believe how novel it felt.  Having a freezer inside the house, having room for anything in the fridge.  We hosted Thanksgiving dinner this year.  I let the turkey thaw in the fridge, and there was room for other things.  It was amazing!   (By the way, we also hosted T-day without a fridge, it’s totally doable).

This doesn’t mean I’m going all conventional, back to disposable everything.  But it does mean I’m giving myself more grace.  I don’t need to be perfect or extreme.  I just need to keep trying.

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